How to stop being a dick

Let me ask you a question. Do you ever find yourself behaving like a complete dick, and you know you’re behaving like a dick, and part of your brain is screaming at you to stop being a dick, but somehow you can’t?

Cartoon drawing of brain with worried expression and questions marks surrounding it

Don’t listen to your brain and let your fears rule your actions.

Kind of like an out of body experience, but without the cool special effects and floating?

Just me?

Oh. Okay then.

See, we’ve just bought a house (I may have mentioned it) and it’s been a fairly ridiculous process. Stupid process, in fact, and I don’t understand why it has to be so complicated. Anyway, I’m found the whole process really stressful.

It all kind of came to a head the other Monday: I found out the mortgage company had been sitting on our paperwork for a week and done nothing with it, then asked for more information. Information I could have provided if they’d given us a clue earlier. So that Monday was a mad scramble to get stuff together (and by the way my accountant is a superstar).

Which is what it is… but it’s the waiting that drives me nuts. And that Monday, it really did drive me nuts. Tight chest, head buzzing, genuinely frightened I was going mad… and yet, at the same time, yelling at myself silently that this reaction was not helpful. Not productive. And certainly not healthy.

It was like I could see and hear myself, but not stop. Mental.

I had a choice: be super-stressed, or chill the fuck out.

Problem is, though, it’s not that easy to turn it off. So I went for an 8 mile run instead and felt a million times better. I think it’s the endorphins: they put everything into perspective.

Then, the next day, I did better. Not an enormous amount better, but better. And instead of running, I went to circus class and learned to do this.

There’s nothing like the prospect of face-planting into the floor to focus your mind away from the stuff that’s stressing you out. I thoroughly recommend it 🙂

Someone to talk to helps, too. My business buddy Mark was a superstar yesterday. Plans ahoy. Do you have a business community? Someone to talk to? To keep you accountable?

A good place to start is my book, Business For Superheroes. In it I show you the things I’ve done to get my business where it is now. Take action and buy a copy here.



Vicky Fraser is a copywriter, author, and entrepreneur. She really did run away with the circus… but when she’s not swinging from a trapeze, she’s showing other copywriters and small business owners how to work with better clients, make more money, and stop missing bathtimes, first words, and dinners with angry partners. In fact, she wrote the book on it. Get your copy here.


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