Do you give yourself enough credit?

Well, yesterday’s blog post brought me some lovely replies – where I asked what you were most proud of, or what makes you happy, or what makes you stop and say, “Did that really just happen?” 

Man standing on steps leading nowhere.

Don’t just plan for the future, celebrate the now as well.

And, in fact, one reply in particular was incredibly touching. From Andy:

“What a nice post today, Vicky… It made me think about what I’m proud of, which was how often people told me I was a good listener or inspiring or interesting when I was at a 10-day International Intensive Training for Nonviolent Communication last month.

“For some reason (I can’t remember why) yesterday I remembered how you appeared in the BSIC in 2014… and I was looking at your book on my desk and saw the 700 some-odd daily emails you’ve sent since then and I thought “Fuck… Vicky does so much awesome shit. I want to be more like Vicky.” So, thanks for the inspiration. :)”

Every now and then, we all need to hear something like this, because I always feel that I’m not getting enough done and that I could do better. In fact, I think I’m right… but the problem is compounded by the fact that I don’t give myself enough credit for what I do get done.

And I bet the same’s true for you.

Sometimes, you need to sit back and look at everything you’ve accomplished over the past year or so, and be proud of that. I’ll wager you’ll be amazed at your own productivity, ambition, and sheer will.

It’s good to look forward and to plan and to decide to do things; nothing would get done otherwise. But remember to take stock of what you’ve done. Take a moment to appreciate your achievements. In fact, you could write them down each evening: what have you accomplished today that’s moved you closer to your goal (business or life)?

But take a moment, too, to appreciate the now.

We spend so much time living in the past and the future, and I think that’s a big cause of stress and misery. So few people spend any real time appreciating the now, which is crazy, because that’s the only real time we have. The past is dead and gone, unchangeable, for better or worse. So accept it, look back every now and then to learn something or appreciate what you’ve achieved, but don’t linger there.

The future is a foreign country and it’s terribly uncertain. Look forward, keep your eyes on the prize, but don’t live there. It doesn’t exist. Spending too much time planning means you don’t spend enough time doing or appreciating the fact that you’re alive right now.

My Inner Circle Member Lin said something to that effect yesterday:

“I’ve had that feeling before, lovely, sometimes I even stop, take a mental picture of it and think ‘this is a perfect moment of happiness’. Enjoy the now

“Never think of the future, it comes soon enough” Einstein”

She’s wise, is our Lin. I’m taking her advice today. I’ve noticed something odd, though: it’s difficult concentrating on the now. We’re so conditioned to making plans and following hopes and dreams that living just right now takes practice – but it’s a habit I intend to cultivate.

I’ll get more done in less time.

Because now I know where I’m going. Do you?



Vicky Fraser is a copywriter, author, and entrepreneur. She really did run away with the circus… but when she’s not swinging from a trapeze, she’s showing other copywriters and small business owners how to work with better clients, make more money, and stop missing bathtimes, first words, and dinners with angry partners. In fact, she wrote the book on it. Get your copy here.

PS One of the first things I get you to do in my book, Business For Superheroes, is fill in some worksheets to help them get focus and clarity on what they’re doing. It gets them taking action straight away. If that sounds like something you’d benefit from (and it must be, because you’re reading these emails) you can buy a copy here.

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