Do you sometimes overthink things? (Rhetorical question – you totally do. I do. We all do.)
Case in point: there’s this move in trapeze class. You’re basically hanging upside down from the trapeze from your ankles. It’s called, unsurprisingly, “ankles” and it hurts like a rat bastard. (Although, like anything, the more you do it the less it hurts)
Anyway, the idea is that once you’re comfortable just hanging there, you start to swing backwards and forwards. “Beating”, it’s called. It’s a little alarming because your rock-solid ankles tend to slip a little but still – so far, so good.
Then, to get out of the position, you’re supposed to beat right up and reach above your feet and grasp the ropes.
I’ve never been able to do that. I’ve always gone for the bar instead, because it’s a big reach up. Can you stand legs straight, fold at the middle, and get your hands flat on the floor… and bend your elbows slightly? Well, that’s basically what you have to do to reach above your feet. From upside down. While hanging from your ankles a few feet above the ground.
“But what if I slip and fall?”
“I can’t reach that, I’m not flexible enough.”
“I can’t do it.”
And so on, and so forth. Those are the thoughts going through my head every time, and every time I reach for the bar with one hand and the rope with the other.
“Okay, this time, I’ll reach right up and just go for the bar as a last resort safety net.”
“Beat back, beat forward, look up, reach up, and GO!”
“Next time: just reach a little higher. Just a tad.”
Lots of thinking. Not enough doing.
Until last night, when I JFDI. No thinking, just reached above my feet and grabbed the ropes. Because of course I can do it; I’ve been able to do it for ages. I’ve just been talking myself out of it and overcomplicating something very simple.
The most ridiculous thing of all? I realised my “safety net”, my reach for the bar, was scuppering my progress every time. You can’t reach higher if you’re hunched with fear.
What’s holding you back? What are you overthinking? What would go better if you JFDI?
Hit reply and tell me. Or even better, buy a copy of my book, Business For Superheroes and get some advice from someone who has already been there and done it.
Vicky Fraser is a copywriter, author, and entrepreneur. She really did run away with the circus… but when she’s not swinging from a trapeze, she’s showing other copywriters and small business owners how to work with better clients, make more money, and stop missing bathtimes, first words, and dinners with angry partners. In fact, she wrote the book on it. Get your copy here.
PS If you’re anything like me, you’re visual… so here’s a short video of me trapezing a few years ago. (Please forgive the portrait video… It wasn’t me!) At 50 seconds in, that’s ankles. And the only reason I managed to get my hands above my feet on the ropes is because I was on the harness and had help. Not anymore though – I can do it alone now!