Carrie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds in the space of two days.
Singin’ in the Rain is one of my most favourite films ever. Debbie Reynolds had a good innings. But her daughter, Carrie? Just 60.
And while the media are leaving “tributes” to her performance as Princess Leia in Star Wars aged just 19 (which was pants-wettingly good, for sure) I’ll be remembering her for being a frickin’ awesomely strong, bonkers woman who achieved so much more than most people realise.
She was a huge ambassador for mental health, very open about her bipolar disorder and the troubles it got her into.
She was a much-sought-after script doctor in Hollywood and improved countless scripts and films over the years.
She was a stunning writer (seriously, read her books if you haven’t already).
Most of all, for me, she was brave. She was unfuckwithable (as Ash Ambirge would put it). She got stuff done. And she was funny. Here’s the obituary she wrote for herself – a story about filming Star Wars:
“Remember the white dress I wore all through that film? George came up to me the first day of filming, took one look at the dress and said: ‘You can’t wear a bra under that dress.'”
“‘OK, I’ll bite,’ I said. ‘Why?’ And he said: ‘Because … there’s no underwear in space.'”
“He said it with such conviction. Like he had been to space and looked around and he didn’t see any bras or panties anywhere.”
“He explained. ‘You go into space and you become weightless. Then your body expands but your bra doesn’t, so you get strangled by your own underwear.’
“I think that this would make for a fantastic obituary. I tell my younger friends that no matter how I go, I want it reported that I drowned in moonlight, strangled by my own bra.”
That made me laugh. But I think my favourite thing Carrie Fisher said was this:
“Stay afraid, but do it anyway. What’s important is the action. You don’t have to wait to be confident. Just do it and eventually the confidence will follow.”
This is true. I would never have accomplished any of the things I’ve done without this attitude.
And you know what? Confidence does follow.
60 was too young. We don’t get much time on this pale blue dot, so stop letting other people’s doom and gloom waste your time. Get out there and make stuff happen so you can live the life you want, rather than being a passenger on someone else’s ride.
And if you’re afraid? Do it anyway. Don’t just sit and read these blog posts, use them. Better still, click on this little link right here and put some skin in the game. Buy a copy of my book, Business For Superheroes. Take some real action and I will help you achieve the stuff you want.
Vicky Fraser is a copywriter, author, and entrepreneur. She really did run away with the circus… but when she’s not swinging from a trapeze, she’s showing other copywriters and small business owners how to work with better clients, make more money, and stop missing bathtimes, first words, and dinners with angry partners. In fact, she wrote the book on it. Get your copy here.
PS Many people mistake reading for action. Don’t you be one of them. Reading and dreaming are tricksy little conmen who won’t make you anything but older. Take action. JFDI.