“Look up — look at the wall behind you. Don’t look at the floor.”
“Oh I seeeeeeeeeeee!”
My legs rose effortlessly into a handstand.
There’s a pole move I’ve been struggling with off and on for months. You put one hand on the floor a few inches from the pole. The other hand goes up behind you, straight arm, and you grip the pole so your shoulder is leaning on it.
Then you lift your legs — straight legs — into a one-handed pole handstand. Kinda like this (this isn’t me):
But I’d not been able to lift my legs. I could do a little jump into it. I could just about struggle up with bent knees. But I couldn’t lift my legs straight.
And all it took to fix that was for someone who could already do it to watch me, see and understand what I was doing wrong, and tell me exactly what to do to correct it.
It was so simple.
Instead of looking down at my hand on the floor, I should have been looking straight ahead at the wall.
Just a tiny tweak, and my legs rose as if by magic.
That’s the value of a mentor.
They’ll look at what you’re struggling with and they’ll zero in on what you need to do to fix it.
A mentor who knows their shit isn’t stifled by your tunnel vision.
When you’re struggling with something, and frustrated, and being able to pay the bills is on your mind, you get blinkered. It’s not deliberate. You don’t even notice it.
But gradually, your focus narrows and narrows until all you can see is the problem. All you can do is keep plugging away. Those blinkers stop you seeing other stuff that might help.
Sometimes you need someone to help you with a big shift in focus.
But often it’ll be a tiny thing. Something so simple you wonder why you didn’t see it yourself.
And you’re motoring.
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Vicky Fraser is a copywriter, author, and entrepreneur. She really did run away with the circus… but when she’s not swinging from a trapeze, she’s showing other copywriters and small business owners how to work with better clients, make more money, and stop missing bathtimes, first words, and dinners with angry partners. In fact, she wrote the book on it. Get your copy here.