How to do self-love [new podcast]

Lying on my back, writhing blissfully…

And suddenly my eyes fill with tears.


This is supposed to be fun, and pleasurable, and generally delightful.

And it is.

(I was having a luxury pedicure, by the way. I don’t know what you were thinking I was doing…)

This was last week, and it was my first ever pedicure.

See, normally I just go to the beauticians to have painful stuff done — hair ripped out, eyebrows threaded, that kind of thing. But the beautician asked me, last time I was there, why I only ever go for the painful stuff. (Hmmm. I wonder why too.)

She suggested their summer foot treatment, and so I thought why not.

It was wonderful.

So why was I suddenly on the verge of tears?

Because I never, ever, ever do anything like this. I am not a spa person. Nor a facial person. I never treat myself in that way.


Because I thought it was a waste of time, of money.

I thought that kind of girly thing wasn’t for me — it was for the pretty women, the glamorous women, the women who were worth it.

I mean, how fucked up is that?

Very. Very fucked up.

Which I realised halfway through my foot massage. Hence the tears.

I’m telling you all this because ever since I interviewed Danielle Sax for today’s podcast, I’ve been noticing all kinds of little things about myself and the way I talk to myself and treat myself.

And it’s not good.

Not good at all.

I suspect it’s also very common.

We — people generally but particularly entrepreneurs and business owners — are our own worst enemies. We’re so hard on ourselves, to the point of damage. We’re intolerant of simple mistakes we’d forgive instantly in others. And we are a bundle of terrible habits.

So please, please listen to this week’s podcast. Danielle is a lovely, lovely lady who knows what she’s talking about.

She told me her story, then she told me how business owners self-sabotage all the time. How we are always working hard, and giving, and doing… but rarely paying much attention to our own wellbeing.

And she gave me a few strategies for being kinder to myself.

Stop what you’re doing and download it from any of these places:


Stitcher Radio:


Then show yourself a little weekend lovin’, in whatever way seems best for you 😉



Vicky Fraser is a copywriter, author, and entrepreneur. She really did run away with the circus… but when she’s not swinging from a trapeze, she’s showing other copywriters and small business owners how to work with better clients, make more money, and stop missing bathtimes, first words, and dinners with angry partners. In fact, she wrote the book on it. Get your copy here.


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