Vicky Fraser: business owner, trapeze artist, and recovering headless chicken
But how the good holy fuck do you do that?
With all the hype, the bullshit, and the latest bright shiny object magic pill that’ll solve all your problems… how do you know where to start, and what’ll work?
How do you get clarity on where you are and what you’re doing?
And when you’ve done that, how do you claw back enough time from your already-manic day to actually DO IT?
You ask someone who’s been there before.
Hi, I’m Vicky — and I’m a recovering headless chicken.
Just 5 years ago, I was clinging frantically onto the business owner’s feast-and-famine rollercoaster, struggling to pay the bills, and up to my neck in debt.
I was baffled and bewildered — because this was NOT the life of freedom I thought I’d be living when I started my business. In fact, the only freedom I had was the ability to work in my cow-print pyjamas until 2pm and eat biscuits for breakfast.
Somehow I seemed to be working 18 hours a day… but I still couldn’t pay the bills. As soon as one client contract finished, I’d be scrabbling around in a panic for the next one.
I’d be so desperate, I’d take anything with a pulse and a credit card (and sometimes not even a credit card — just chips).
It was so bloody lonely because nobody else understood. I had nobody to talk to and nowhere to turn for good advice.
But that wasn’t even the worst part.
The most soul-destroying part of my day was feeling like a failure every time I looked in the mirror. There I was, in my cow-print pyjamas, covered in biscuit crumbs, and wondering if I’d just have to get a J.O.B.
Because my husband was out there working his arse off and putting food on the table, while I was playing around at running a business.
He was understanding… but I sure wasn’t kind to myself. I put so much pressure on myself, sometimes it seemed easier to give up.
But instead of getting a J.O.B. I got help instead.
I found someone who had his shit together, and put my trust in him. And what I learned surprised me.
Because here’s a truth most mentors won’t tell you — none of us ever had our shit together before someone showed us how to be effective in our own businesses.
None of us.
We’re not born able to run the perfect business. We have to learn.